To do Random Act of Sexiness project, I distributed 30 condoms in North Gate at 6pm on October 2nd, as I announced on SHEP Facebook page. I handed out condoms saying “have a safe sex!” and I briefly explained what I have learned about STI and STD to some of people who were interested in the project.

At the first time, I thought passing out 30 condoms were really easy but to be honest, it was much harder than I imagined and took much more time as well. To me, I had a strong perception that people in America are open-minded to sexual matters and are totally free to talk about sex but it was totally a misperception. When I handed a condom, many students gave me a dirty look and did not even say a word. Moreover, some said “what the fuck?” so I became shyer and shyer to give people a condom but I thought “why not? It is not a bad thing at all” and kept trying to distribute condoms.

In addition, when I showed some of them a female condom and said that there are expire dates, many said “I did not know there was female condom” or “is there expire dates for condoms? I did not know!” Even though they seem somewhat a basic knowledge that college-aged people naturally know but the reality was different. Therefore, I thought a lot more sexual educations such as SHAW or Random Act of Sexiness are in need for students’ sexual health and somewhat I got a feeling that I should act first to lead other student with passion as Sex 101 Decal student!

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At first I was planning to start handing out condoms on Monday Sept 29th. However several homework assignments from my other classes stalled my original plans. I waited until Wednesday Oct 1st to officially begin giving away condoms. The night before Wednesday, I designed a picture flyer saying “Sexual Health Awareness Week, Free Condoms, Don’t Be Shy, Fell Free To Take Some” and printed it out the other day.
My main location of distribution was at the hallway connecting Moffitt Library and Main Stacks, simply because I would expect the highest rate of student population flow at that conjunction. I sit at a desk and attached the poster on the wall right next to me with all the condoms displayed in front of it. By the time I finished all the setups, it was about 9:30AM. People walking by began to stare at the poster and condoms from time to time but for the first 30mins nobody actually took any one of them. Since it was in the library, I could only try to ask people to take some with a quite low voice. For the next hour, only one of the condoms was taken by a student and I could see her face flushing because she hesitated a little at first before she took one.
So after about 90 minutes, I felt it was not going to be really successful if I kept staying at that location. Thoughts of changing places came up to my mind. But thankfully, at around 11:20AM, a group of Korean guys stopped by and seemed to be fascinated by such display in the library. I approached them and told them about SHAW a little bit. Fortunate enough, they grabbed four in total. Since then, more people showed up in the library and many of them approached me and took condoms.
By the time around 1PM, all the condoms were successfully taken by various passionate students. Although most of the people walking by either walked too fast and missed my poster or somehow might feel shy to come back and grab one condom after they saw it while passing by. I thought that was one of my major flaw in designing the handing out plan. Because in many cases people actually noticed my poster and the condoms and slowed down. Such scenario made the first several hours difficult for me to handing out condoms easily. Yet, as time approached noon, reasonably more students would come into the library and that indeed increased the possibility of having students stop by and taken condoms. So overall, I think my plan of using the library as the distribution location was quite effective and successful. All 30 condoms were taken and the one who took the last condom was a friend of mine. I asked someone to take a picture of me and my friend and the photos are attached to this email.
It was a great experience and I was quite afraid of failing to giving away all of the condoms. But thanks to our lovely passionate Cal Bears, it was not that hard after all. :-)

On Thursday afternoon around 4pm, I handed out 30 condoms from the

Sather Gate to Wheeler Hall.

Different from my prior expectation, the experience of handing out

condoms cannot be described by a single word of either hard or easy. As

Berkeley is known for its diversity of students, people reacted differently when

they were handed a condom. Some people simply ignored the condom and

rushed to their classes while others were glad to take the condoms and asked

questions about the SHAW.

Most interestedly, some people expressed interest about the condoms

themselves. As we were handing out the rainbow series of condoms this time,

some people asked me if they could get a ultra thin condom instead and some

other students would also prefer extra large ones. Therefore, for future condom

handing activities, it might be worth considering the idea of preparing a diverse

range of condoms and give them out based on the need of people.

Another detail that worth mentioning is that (biological) gender might

affect the possibility that one would take a condom in public. During my

experience of handing out condoms, it appears that more males than females

would accept the condoms. While the reason of this could be traced to culture or

their birth origin, the way that females were taught differently from males might

be part of the answer to this question.

This week, I will be talking about sexual assault, more specifically, sexual assault on males in the military. The military used to be dominated by male soldiers. Today, still only 20% of the military are made up of women. Being overseas and far away from your partner, urges for sexual pleasure creep up. Being that the vast majority of the military are males, men have been sexually assaulted quite often. They can get attacked, raped, and traumatized for life. That is why in the article that I read, they talked about health care facilities that make support groups for veterans who have been sexually assaulted. The victims are able to tell their story and hear other victims’ stories. The environment is meant to support one another get past the traumatizing event that happened when they were on duty.

I never knew about these programs, but I’m glad they have them available for veterans. Sexual assault to anyone is traumatizing and should be stopped. No one deserves to be raped. As humans, we should decide who we want to have sexual encounters with. Rape is NEVER the answer.

~ “Magic” Mike


I think it’s time to demystify female genitalia. Getting a good understanding of what our own bodies, or our partner’s bodies look like, can help tremendously when exploring masturbation or having sex! So if you ever wanted to know what a fallopian tube is, or where the clitoris is located, look no further! I’m here to answer those inquiries you may have.

Mila Fem Anat post 1Let’s start with the outer genitals. The entire outer female genital region is called the vulva (not the vagina!). And the vulva consists of the mons pubis, labia majora, labia minora, clitoris, and the external openings of the urethra and vagina.

The mons pubis is a fatty layer of tissue that covers the joint of your pubic bones. Pubic hair covers the mons.

The labia majora (labia=lips) or outer labia, are two folds of fatty tissue that surround the inner labia. The labia minora or inner labia, are also two very sensitive folds of skin that lie inside the outer labia that vary in color and size from female to female.

At the top of the inner labia, right below the mons pubis is the clitoral hood, and underneath the hood lies the clitoral glans. The clitoris is considered to be the most sensitive part of the vulva with at least 8,000 nerve endings (twice as many as a penis has)! It also interacts with 15,000 nerve endings throughout the pelvic area. In fact, the clitoris is the only organ in the body whose sole purpose is sexual pleasure! Different bodies respond to different levels of stimulation of the clitoris. If you have a clitoris, it’s important to get to know what feels right for you as you explore your lovely lady parts. And though it looks very small on the outside, the clitoris is actually much larger than we can see, with most of the organ being internal.

Mila Fem Anat post 2Next, right below the clitoris is the very tiny hole or slit of the urethra, where one pees from. Then right below the urethra is the vaginal opening. Now, since the urethra and vagina are so close, sometimes, sexual activity can cause a urinary tract infection. Which is why it’s important to urinate after sex and make sure you and your partner are washing properly. Next, right inside the vaginal opening, one may or may not see the vaginal corona, or hymen. The corona generally wears away over time, and not all people born with vaginas have a noticeable corona. Sometimes, female-bodied individuals express pain, bleeding or discomfort during the first few times of having intercourse. When this happens, in most cases pain may occur because of anxiety, or not being properly lubricated or relaxed. In very rare cases, the corona may be too thick, or covering too much of the vaginal opening and can be remedied by a medical procedure. The vagina is actually really good at expanding when aroused. The average vagina is 3-4 inches long but is very elastic and can expand to accommodate a penis, and a baby being born.

Going up the vaginal canal leads to the infamous g-spot. The easiest way to find the g-spot is by putting a finger inside the vagina, facing the belly. It can feel like a spongy bump in the vagina. It is a potential source of sexual pleasure, though not all necessarily find that g-spot stimulation leads to orgasm. Going farther up the vaginal canal leads to the cervix. The cervix is where the vagina meets the uterus, it is also where sperm can enter and menstrual blood can exit the body. The uterus is the organ where a fetus may form, and can expand to hold the developing baby. Attached to the uterus are the fallopian tubes on either side, which serve as tunnels for the ova (egg cells) to travel from the ovaries to the uterus. Mila Fem Anat post 3

Another component to the inner female sexual anatomy is the clitoris. Only a small portion is exposed on the outside, but on the inside, the clitoris splits off into two legs called crura (found inside the labia majora) and the clitoral bulbs (vestibular bulbs) that surround part of the vaginal canal. Thus, the clitoris can be directly and indirectly stimulated during sexual activity!

If you have a vulva, take some time to get to know it, by touching it and looking at it. That way you can figure out what feels good for you. Everyone’s bodies are a little different when it comes to how we experience pleasure. Getting to know yours is a great way to feel comfortable in it and it will help you communicate to a partner, if you decide to have sex, what feels right for you!

 ~ Mila

SHEP Candidate

Personal lubricants are used during sexual activity like sex or masturbation to reduce friction and increase pleasure. They help to reduce the friction between body parts like the vagina, penis, anus, or between sex toys and the body.

Mila Lube postFirstly, here’s a breakdown of the three types of lube: water-based, silicone-based, and oil-based. Water-based is one of the most prevalent and commonly used all-purpose lubrication. It’s generally compatible with all toys, and latex and polyurethane barrier methods. However it’s important to read the instructions of a particular brand. It comes in a lot of varieties but often requires reapplication. It’s water soluble, as its name implies, thus it washes off easily and can dry more quickly than the other types.

Silicone-based lubes are longer lasting than water-based ones, and they take more of an effort to wash off. It is compatible with latex and polyurethane condoms and other barrier methods. It’s also compatible with glass, metal, and plastic materials. This type is best for anal sex, since the anus and rectum aren’t self-lubricating. Silicone-based lube will not be absorbed by the skin or mucous membranes, thus lasting much longer, and leading to more comfortable sex. Silicone is also very safe to use, and is good for those who have sensitive skin. One should not, however, use silicone-based lubrication on silicone toys, since silicone on silicone will cause the toy to break down.

The third kind is oil-based. Oil-based lubes also last very long, but are not safe to use with latex condoms or any other latex-based safer sex supplies. Another caution regarding oil-based lubes is the possibility of irritation or bacterial infection if residue remains inside the vagina or rectum. This is why oil-based lubes are generally considered safe for external use only.

Now, before you scoff, “but I don’t need to use that,” I just want to take some time and highlight some of the wonderful benefits of a little (or a lot) of lube during sexual activity! Lube can be a wonderful ally when it comes to sexual pleasure.

  1.  A lot of people complain that condoms take away from the sexual experience because they “don’t feel like the real thing.” Condoms can increase the friction when having sex, possibly leading to dryness and not so pleasant sensations. However, adding a couple drops of lube to the inside of the tip and then a little more on the outside when the condom is fully on, can lead to more comfortable and pleasurable sex for both partners!
  2.  Vaginal dryness happens. It can be brought on by a number of factors like stress, anxiety, hormonal changes, or medications. It happens and it’s nothing to be ashamed about. Lube is here to help you have a good time!
  3. There are so many kinds of lubes out there. Some are flavored, while others provide sensations like tingling or warming ones. It’s just important to note that flavored lube is only to be used for oral sex. Trying something fun and new can really enhance your sexual experience whether with a partner or on your own.
  4. Lube can also be used in foreplay, like when giving your partner a sensual massage.
  5. Lubrication is also a great idea when using toys, but be careful not to use silicone-based lube on silicone toys!

So go out there and make lube your friend! Find one that works for you; just remember to test it first in a small area to make sure nothing in the ingredients will cause you irritation. Have fun experimenting!

~ Mila

SHEP Candidate

EmpowerU BrittanyEmpowerU is a fantastic program that every Cal student is required to take. The facilitators Alicia and Gill use a safe and sexy approach with their awesome revamp of the program.  As opposed to the old version of the program that students in the past may have attended, the newly revised version is interactive and entertaining and truly gets its point across.

Sexual assault is a difficult topic to address on any occasion and in a formal setting such as EmpowerU, it can be triggering and even tense. However, Gill and Alicia did a fantastic job at relieving any stress that may have been promoted with light hearted and enthusiastic discussions on otherwise intense topics. It promotes active discussion regarding how and why you might intervene to prevent sexual assault in a subtle and effective way. Furthermore it helps educate individuals on how to direct a person to help in the event they need.

The new EmpowerU film will help educate students on a basic social skill that many people avoid or even lack. It’s difficult to intervene in a tense situation, especially if it involves a stranger and this revamped version of EmpowerU certainly teaches students how to stand strong for themselves and for others. This is important and certainly applicable during the current rush of sexual assault complaints filed against the campus. Where there are steps toward prevention there is another small step towards reducing or eradicating sexual assault as a whole.

That said, its great to see the changes around campus as a result of the current campaign against sexual assault. A topic long held in the dark it is refreshing to see it more actively combated through tools such as EmpowerU.

~ “Bondage” Brittany


Brittany Sather HealthThis past semester I had the fantastic opportunity to lead an LGBT workshop for the Sather Health group on campus  in Evans hall. Sather Health focuses on delivering accurate health information to the student body through their own website. As a result they have different speakers come in to discuss various health topics over the course of the semester.

They were a warm and welcoming group eager to learn, if a bit shy. Which is understandable as sexuality is a difficult topic to broach and not everyone is always as eager to do so as I can be. Unfortunately for me, before I could even get the workshop started, technology was against me! I had a handy power point presentation for them full of awesome facts and cool pictures, but alas, the projectors refused to cooperate with my laptop.  So instead,  I had to default to a plainer lecture mode. Luckily I had some interactive activities up my sleeve such as a visual Kinsey scale and two truths and 1 lie.

Overall, the group was incredibly receptive to the information I had for them and I’m thankful they bore with me and didn’t get too antsy when I tried to use the chalkboard. Did you know chalk gets everywhere when you use it? It definitely gave me a new appreciation for my GSI’s.  That said, it was a true pleasure to present for Sather Health and I hope I gave them new insight into the LGBT community!

~ “Bondage” Brittany

Brittany LGBT HealthEquality should be a right and not a prize to be won. Unfortunately in our society, it is difficult to discern when and where equality is sufficient. Thus, our society is intrinsically unequal. Campaigns such as the Human Rights Campaign (often denoted by a gold equal sign on a blue background) attempt to promote equality for the LGBT community.

LGBT stands for lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender. Often members of the LGBT community are stigmatized and discriminated for their life choices. They are placed in a position of inequality and lower status in comparison to the heterosexual norm.  Such stigmas result in a fear of health care due to policies, which often discriminated against members of the LGBT community. This prejudice of the health system resulted in uncomfortable encounters with medical professionals, which proved inadequate and often resulted in avoidance of health care.

October 2013 efforts were made to improve the quality and availability or access to health care for the LGBT community. It is an effort to combat the stigmatization and discrimination (and on occasion criminalization) associated with LGBT health procedures. This in turn would assist in decreasing Sexually Transmitted Infection (STI) transmission among the community. For example, in 2008 the CDC reports 63% of syphilis cases occurred in homosexual and bisexual men. This is a result in part of insufficient health care and in some cases insufficient availability of health care.  However, please remember that STI’s are not solely for members of the LGBT community – anyone practicing unsafe sex can be the unfortunate recipient of an STI. Therefore it is important to practice safe sex whenever a sexual encounter is likely to occur.

The move towards universal health services for hetero-normative communities and LGBT communities alike is a momentous step. It is an inch towards equality that is incredibly important for public health and the health of individuals in the LGBT community. That said, it is best to keep it “Safe and Sexy” for any person- so don’t forget that Tang provides safer sex supplies for a small fee so take advantage of it!


~ “Bondage” Brittany


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DeCal student DominiqueI completed my Random Acts of Sexiness on Monday, 28 April at around 2:30pm with Connor! Before beginning my Random Acts of Sexiness, I ran into my SHEP DeCal Facilitator Daysha and I was so excited that she was so excited to see us do this. We started out in front of GBC, then up Sproul Plaza and I ended over at Dwinelle Plaza. I only gave out a little over half in the hour I was there, with about 12 left over. It seemed like Connor had an easier time handing them out, because I sure didn’t. Some folks looked at me funny, others laughed and were quick to decline. It seemed as though nobody was down for protecting themselves and staying safe and sexy! But that’s cool too – they have their reasons. However, there are always the few people who were super excited to receive a little treat…

~ Sex 101: Topics in Sexual Health DeCal student


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