Q: Why is it so hard to have sex in water?

A: Sex in the water can be difficult for a few reasons: water washes away the body’s natural lubrication, it can be difficult to make your body move the way you want it to under water, and in the case of sex in pools or hot tubs, the chlorine and other chemicals can irritate the genitals, making sex uncomfortable.

The first problem can be solved by using silicone lubricant (some brands include Pink, Pjur, and Gun Oil). Unlike water-based lubricant, silicone lubricant will not wash away under water, and unlike oil-based lubricant, it is safe to use with condoms. Just be careful when using lube in the shower, as it can make the bathtub slippery, too! As for the problem of trying to move under water, it might help to have something to hold on to or push against, like a wall, the pool ladder, or the side of the bathtub; you can also try having sex with only part of your body underwater, which will make it a little easier to move. And if you’re finding it uncomfortable to have sex in a pool or hot tub because of irritation but still want to have sex in water, try the bathtub.