When people hear safer sex, most of the time they think “Condoms” and why not? They’re cheap, useful, and abundant. Condoms have helped protect people against STIs since the late 1800s, notably they now function as an important barrier against the spread of HIV. This is amazing and a public health marvel, but it leaves out many groups of people. Because many people understand condoms as one of the only forms of barrier methods, as a barrier between a penis and an orifice, this has left lesbians, women who have sex with women and a huge variety of people who have vulvas and have sex with people who have vulvas thinking that they don’t have need to use safer sex supplies like gloves, dental dams, and condoms.
Condoms? For people with vulvas? Absolutely! Condoms are cheap and versatile, usefully for limitless sexual acts. Playing with toys, like dildos, vibrators, or plugs? Put a condom on it! Condoms should be used when sharing toys, if you’re using anything that isn’t body safe, or if like me you’re just lazy! If you use a condom on a toy you can take it off, throw it away and not have to wash your toy in the sink after using it! Additionally, because condoms are so cheap, sometimes free, you can unroll it, cut off the base, cut a slit in the side and use it as a….
Dental Dam! The unsung hero of oral sex dental dams are under-utilized and misunderstood. They are a plastic or latex sheet that covers the vulva or anus during oral sex. It can be flavored on one side, to protect against off putting tastes. Dental dams can be made out of gloves, plastic wrap, sandwich bags, and more! If you put lube on the side of the orifice being licked, very little to no sensation is lost and you get to stay safe while eating out!
The last but not least safer sex supply I’m going to talk about is gloves!! Gloves like the doctor wears during your exams, like your piercer wears when giving you some new jewelry, like every food service worker wears when handling your food. Gloves are truly the most versatile thing you can have in your safer sex repertoire. Gloves entire focus is to keep things sanitized and to keep your bacteria from getting onto anything and anything’s bacteria from getting onto you! Gloves can be used for fingering, fisting, oral, and roleplaying! Gloves smooth out the edges of nails, you no longer have to choose between your sex life and your nail length! They help your fingers not get pruny during extended sessions. They help fingers, hands and fists go in smoother, wherever their destination. If anal is your thing, they protect you when shit happens. You can cut off the fingers (except the thumb), cut it down the side and use it as a dental dam, with the thumb hole for minor tongue insertion. Do you want a check-up from a sexy nurse? Gloves can add a sense of realism to the scene.
Moral of my story is: if you are having sex with someone with a vagina, or have one yourself, stay safe! Stay sexy!