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Sigma Kappa Workshop Part 2!

The Sigma Kappa workshop on February 24th went well overall. The planning was the only bad part because it seemed to be a bit disorganized but once everything got figured out the workshop went smoothly. The requestor originally didn’t think we were coming then later requested us for a workshop of 130 people which was a bit intimidating. They were doing what seemed to be a sexual health/awareness day but I’m not entirely sure how long they were talking about the subject before and after our workshop.

The location was easy to find, but was very hard to find parking near so that through off my arrival time by a little bit, but Andy was at the workshop on time. Andy and I had a lot of knowledge on the topic ahead of time, so making the presentation wasn’t too difficult once we got in the swing of things. The group was very knowledgeable and seemed to know most of the things we talked about (in relation to enthusiastic consent and healthy relationships). I did not send a follow up email until today (March 4th), but I will be awaiting a reply soon.

Everyone involved was very quick to respond to any communication about the workshop and that was highly appreciated. The only other downside to the workshop was the large amount of people present. It was well anticipated but still a little difficult to address if someone hadn’t  talked to a group that big before. We had a number of group activities that had a good amount of participation, but having so many people made the activities very loud. The positive side of this is that there wasn’t a lack of participation in any part of the workshop and it actually went fairly fast once it started.

Something that did strike me from this workshop, is that even though we only talk about enthusiastic consent and promote healthy relationships, we should get trained (even minimally) on how to talk about unhealthy relationships. Even though it is not a workshop we do, I think it would be very helpful for us to know about, as sexual health educators. Also the photo I attached is of my intro slide photo, I actually forgot to take a photo of /around the workshop because it was fairly overwhelming.  


Sigma Kappa Presentation!


On Saturday Vicious V and I went to give a presentation on Healthy Relationships and Consent to Sigma Kappa, a sorority off campus. While we had a super hard time finding parking, the rest of the hour went really smoothly! We talked to around 130 people about what our expectations are for relationship and different components of our ideal relationships. We talked about consent and how it needs to be equal, active, a choice, and a process. We asked all the members to give us their definition for each of those components. Then we brought up that California law says that consent has to be affirmative and not just the lack of a no.

For our active activity we had everyone play consent musical chairs, which everyone enjoyed, especially once we got to the favorite body part. It was especially interesting because after words people discussed the fact that there was active negotiation going on, even with people they were comfortable with. Some people were okay with touching of certain places for like 2 seconds and that was respected! That activity really felt to V and I like it made a difference and gave some people new ways to deal with negotiation.

Next we went on to talk about the spectrum of healthy to abuse relationships and the cycle of violence in abuse. V really shone in this section and even though people quieted down a lot during this section, because it was really important and heavy stuff. We focused on the fact that there are good times to talk to someone in an unhealthy or abusive relationship about leaving it and how not every sign needs to be there for a relationship to be unhealthy. We then gave people resources to get help both on campus (with PATH to Care) and off-campus (RAINN).

At the end of our presentation we talked about communication tips, things to avoid and some really good things to keep in mind during an argument or when to have serious conversations. We discussed not thinking that you know what the other person is thinking, having important conversations not entirely during times with heightened emotions and more!

I felt like we gave Sigma Kappa some good resources and some hands on experience with negotiating. It was a great presentation and when I left I learned that my brother had had his baby so now I have a niece!

-Arousing Andy

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Topics In Sexual Health – Anatomy

The human body is a beautifully complex system where no two people look and behave identically, and because of this, no genitals look exactly alike either! Our bodies are diverse in many ways (such as form, function, and appearance) and in this blog, we will be delving into the functions of particular structures and bits of pleasure anatomy (stages of arousal) to really hone in on how our bodies orchestrate and respond to pleasure. As a disclaimer, we will be using the term “female,” “male,” and “intersex” to describe bodies with vulvas, penises, and both.

To fully understand the basics of how we get our external genitals, we need to rewind to the beginning stages of our lives. Before we speak more on this subject, I want to emphasize that female and male reproductive anatomy are analogous structures, meaning that they come from the same parts. While in utero, there is a phase where all fetuses look the same because sex differentiation hasn’t occurred yet. Once six weeks of development has passed, the fetus enters the “bipotential stage” and begins to undergo differentiation depending on the chromosomal sex (XX=female, XY=male) and hormonal sex (concentration of testosterone and estrogen in the body.) The presence or absence of dihyrotestosterone (DHT, a derivative of testosterone) that plays a major role in genital fusion, meaning that high amounts of it will fuse the opening while low amounts of DHT will result in no fusion at all (vulva.) In addition, the presence of testosterone will further develop the genitals into a penis and scrotum while estrogen continues to grow the clitoris and labias. Sometimes, sex steroid concentrations can be both high in an individual, which usually results in masculinized female genitals, feminized male genitals, or the appearance of both genitals. Also, the chromosomal sex could be inconclusive or ambiguous (such as some cells identifying as XX while others are XY.) In these cases, the individual with non-standard sexual anatomy is categorized as “intersex,” according to the Intersex Society of North America.

We went briefly over how fetuses develop female external genitalia, and now we’ll touch upon key structures involved:

  • Vulva: external genitalia, sometimes mistaken as the vagina
  • Vagina: internal canal where things can be inserted into
    • Before foreplay: 3-4 inches in depth
    • After foreplay: 6-8 inches in depth
  • Ovaries: where eggs develop, mature, and pop out from to  reach the fallopian tubes
  • Fallopian tubes/Oviducts: structure that connects the ovaries to the uterus
    • Where fertilization occurs
  • Uterus: where menstruation blood comes from if fertilization doesn’t occur, location where egg implants if fertilization occurs
  • Clitoris: sole purpose is pleasure
  • Hymen: thin membrane that covers the opening to the vaginal canal
    • presence or absence of it doesn’t indicate sexual experience
  • Not so fun fact: females have shorter urethras, meaning that they are more prone to UTIs (urinary tract infections)


Now we’ll cover the major structures of the male reproductive anatomy to understand how people with penises produce sperm and achieve orgasm:

  • Penis: urogenital tract because the endpoint includes both urine and semen
    • Consists of:
      • Corpus spongiosum
        • Where the urethra runs through
      • Corpora cavernosa
        • Where blood fills to achieve an erection
  • Testes: location of sperm production
  • Epididymus: location of sperm maturation
  • Vas deferens: connects the epididymus to the urethra
  • Prostate: P-spot
    • This, Cowper’s/bulbourethral gland, and the seminal vesicle provide sperm with nutrients, lubrication for the sperm to travel through the urethra, and to buffer the acidity of urine and/or the vagina

That’s all for now! I’ll see you next time, sexy bears!

-Clitty Crystal



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Unit 2 Outreach

The Unit 2 APR room was popping on February 13, 2018 with Berkeley students eager to receive free safer sex goodies and to learn about sexual debuts, consent, and how to use safer sex supplies correctly. The atmosphere was chill with people buzzing around the room to check out the health workers’ table to get free condoms and lube and Bear Pact to receive destressing supplies and to learn about the resources they provide. The health workers quickly ran out of their materials, which was honestly quite a surprise to me because students are usually reluctant in asking for and taking safer sex supplies. Before presenting the content for that night, I began by introducing myself using my sexy name and encouraged them to make some of their own. Afterwards, I asked if people wanted to share the names they came up with, and once the participants did so, I offered them SHEP’s safer sex supplies and immediately more people wanted to share.


The participation skyrocketed from there and audience members added their own inputs with the conversations about the definition of sex, what consent means, and what sexual debuts were. Throughout the night, people acknowledged their agreement through snaps, especially when we discussed that the meaning of sex is different for everyone and that enthusiastic consent was crucial for an amazing experience for anything. Most of the sixty people who came got little packets of lube and traditional condoms and a raffle was held after the presentation for more sexy prizes. Overall, I wasn’t expecting so many students to come to a presentation about sex, to participate in such intimate topics, and be excited to get safer sex supplies because when SHEP is tabling on Sproul, a majority of people avoid eye contact with us or decline to take supplies. The change of attitude was refreshing and really appreciated because the atmosphere the entire night was filled with sex positivity.

~Clitty Crystal

Safer Sex Between People with Vulvas

When people hear safer sex, most of the time they think “Condoms” and why not? They’re cheap, useful, and abundant. Condoms have helped protect people against STIs since the late 1800s, notably they now function as an important barrier against the spread of HIV. This is amazing and a public health marvel, but it leaves out many groups of people. Because many people understand condoms as one of the only forms of barrier methods, as a barrier between a penis and an orifice, this has left lesbians, women who have sex with women and a huge variety of people who have vulvas and have sex with people who have vulvas thinking that they don’t have need to use safer sex supplies like gloves, dental dams, and condoms.


Condoms? For people with vulvas? Absolutely! Condoms are cheap and versatile, usefully for limitless sexual acts. Playing with toys, like dildos, vibrators, or plugs? Put a condom on it! Condoms should be used when sharing toys, if you’re using anything that isn’t body safe, or if like me you’re just lazy! If you use a condom on a toy you can take it off, throw it away and not have to wash your toy in the sink after using it! Additionally, because condoms are so cheap, sometimes free, you can unroll it, cut off the base, cut a slit in the side and use it as a….


Dental Dam! The unsung hero of oral sex dental dams are under-utilized and misunderstood. They are a plastic or latex sheet that covers the vulva or anus during oral sex. It can be flavored on one side, to protect against off putting tastes. Dental dams can be made out of gloves, plastic wrap, sandwich bags, and more! If you put lube on the side of the orifice being licked, very little to no sensation is lost and you get to stay safe while eating out!
The last but not least safer sex supply I’m going to talk about is gloves!! Gloves like the doctor wears during your exams, like your piercer wears when giving you some new jewelry, like every food service worker wears when handling your food. Gloves are truly the most versatile thing you can have in your safer sex repertoire. Gloves entire focus is to keep things sanitized and to keep your bacteria from getting onto anything and anything’s bacteria from getting onto you! Gloves can be used for fingering, fisting, oral, and roleplaying! Gloves smooth out the edges of nails, you no longer have to choose between your sex life and your nail length! They help your fingers not get pruny during extended sessions. They help fingers, hands and fists go in smoother, wherever their destination. If anal is your thing, they protect you when shit happens. You can cut off the fingers (except the thumb), cut it down the side and use it as a dental dam, with the thumb hole for minor tongue insertion. Do you want a check-up from a sexy nurse? Gloves can add a sense of realism to the scene.


Moral of my story is: if you are having sex with someone with a vagina, or have one yourself, stay safe! Stay sexy!

-Arousing Andy

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