Condom 1 Above is me passing out my condoms for Random Acts of Sexiness on Wednesday February 11 around Sather Gate area at 3:30pm! It was a very interesting experience. At first I was super nervous and embarrassed to even ask people if they wanted free condoms, after giving them out to a couple of people I began to get more comfortable. Before I knew it they were all gone since people were much more willing to take free condoms from me than I would have imagined. Article: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2015/01/13/abortion-myths_n_6465904.html For my makeup assignment I found an article that was particularly interesting to me in the realm of sexual health and knowledge, the topic was about abortions. Basically in this article they talked about ten of the most common myths having to do with abortion. The myths included: abortions are dangerous, fetus can feel the pain, most women regret their decisions, abortion rates are increasing, most Americans are against abortion, and most women have easy access to abortions. I think what surprised me the most is that abortion rates are actually decreasing and that actually most Americans are pro-choice. This surprised me because I thought that it was easier to find ways to have safe abortions now a days so more women would be open to the idea of using this rather than thinking about the potential dangers of not having a clinic do it and decide to carry through with the unwanted pregnancy. Also, I felt that there were more anti-abortion Americans since that is most heard of in the mass media. I think abortion and understanding the myths and truths about it is important for everyone to know regardless if you’re against it or for it because then you have all the factual background necessary to support your own choices. While I am personally pro-choice, I believe everyone has their right to their own opinion but before putting their opinions out there they should definitley be well informed.


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Can you recall the moment when you asked for something for the first time? How your whole body waited patiently for that agonizing answer? That YES that would relief you of all the pressure you had built inside. Now take note on all the things you ask for everyday without hesitation or a second thought.
Since toddlers we were conditioned to ask for everything from food to if we could play and the lesson did not stop there. We were taught to speak the word ‘Yes’ to confirm our desire to obtain what was asked of us. The message of a question followed by an answer was quickly received and implanted into our long-term memories. However, we seem to have misplaced our childhood memories in the process of becoming adults. We are no longer searching through our experiences to gain an understanding of the world around us. So are we truly adapting forward as humans?
Nowadays, we seem disabled in our ability to ask clearly our yearning for sexual intercourse. We are impatient to receive an authorizing yes. Which brings us to another lesson to learn or better said RE-learn. How do we ask for consent?
Consent is the act of accepting or agreeing to something proposed or desired by another and therefore giving formal permission for something to happen. A simple definition that would be easy to understand conversely as humans we seem to not acknowledge prior information. Even though as children we were not told that when we asked for something we really were asking for consent we simply just asked. However, as adults we have learned better right? Hopefully now we can distinguish when consent is being given.
So…do you want to have sex ever? Ask. It does not matter in what language you hear a ‘Yes’. As long as, you receive one before engaging into any extracurricular activities. And if you know how to work it right, I’m sure that will not be the only time you hear your partner say, yell, or moan it back to you.
Do you remember now the first time you learned the power behind the word ‘Yes’? Either getting the green light or giving the enthusiastic consent. Do you remember how you felt? Well, sex under the blessing of consent will either match that feeling or surpass it. Don’t give yourself the red light and ruin your luck by ‘forgetting’ to ask for consent. Join the multiple orgasms of the enthusiastic consent.
~ Lucero
SHEP Sexpert


BS NCW blog imageSafer sex is a glorious thing. There are many methods to help achieve safer sex, some more commonplace than others.  Barrier methods are perhaps one of the most common forms of sexually transmitted infection (STI) and pregnancy prevention. Examples of such methods are the traditional condom, and the less well-known, but equally awesome insertive condom! What is an insertive condom, you may ask? Well, I’m happy to tell you.

Insertive condoms do exactly what they sound like. They are inserted into a body cavity (the vaginal canal, the anus, etc.) prior to sexual intercourse. One of the most prolific brands on the market is the FC2, which is made of a nitrile or polyurethane pouch with flexible rings at either end of the condom. The ring at the end of the condom may be removed for comfort or ease of insertion. While the FC2 is one popular brand of the insertive condom, it is by no means the only brand. However, currently the Center carries the FC2.

Now you may be wondering what is so great about the insertive condom? Well, the answer is that there are many things that contribute to the awesomeness of this particular barrier method. It has a success rate of 95% with perfect use and 79% with typical use. Additionally, because it is not made of latex, it is perfect for those who suffer from a latex allergy. An added benefit is that the insertive condom can also be used with oil-based lubricants and doesn’t degrade when exposed to oil-based lubricants (something that all latex products suffer from.) Perhaps one of the coolest factors about insertive condoms, however, is that they can be inserted hours prior to sexual intercourse – so you never get caught unprepared!

Insertive condoms are thus a great alternative to traditional condoms and were initially created to aid in prevention of HIV/AIDS in the early 1980’s. The goal being to provide safer sex supplies to women (and men) around the world. The FC2 is actually the second iteration of the insertive condom, it’s predecessor being the FC1. One myth to dismiss is how insertive condoms sound. The FC1 was believed to make “bag-like” sounds – however, the FC2 as it currently stands is quite noiseless! So no worries about the condom making excessive (or potentially awkward) noises.

For those interested in trying out or learning more about the insertive condom (or any safer sex method) come on out for National Condom Week on February 13th! SHEP will be handing out samples and answering questions as well as having fun activities!

~ Brittany

SHEP Sexpert


 

MW NCW blog image 1 When people think of traditional condoms, they think of round rubbers that roll down a penis or phallic object. Although that is true, there are a vast variety of traditional condoms. They range in different sizes, colors, textures, and flavors. Traditional condoms can go from snug fit, regular, large, Extra Large, and EXTRA EXTRA LARGE. For colors, I have seen every color of the rainbow and more. If anyone wants a different color penis, they can get anything from red, black, orange, yellow, green, etc. It can really change up the scenery and be quite amusing.

If enjoy different colors, you might enjoy different textures too. A regular textured condom is typically smooth, but if you get different textured condoms, it can enhance the experience for the person being penetrated (consensually). From my knowledge, they have studded, ribbed, studded AND ribbed, and twisted. Of course, some people may enjoy the texture and some do not, so it is important to communicate with your partner on your likes and dislikes of any experience.

MW NCW blog image 2For a little bonus, I will now talk about flavored condoms. They are condoms that have different tasting lubes on them and should be only used for oral sex. The lubes contain sugar and can cause yeast infections if penetrated in a vagina or anus, and infections of any kind are not sexy. I hope you have enjoyed this little blog and found it informative. Thank you for your time.

~ Michael

SHEP SEXPERT


Let’s talk about consent. Consent is giving affirmative permission for an action to occur. In regards to sexual activity, consent means allowing for particular sexual acts to take place! Which particular acts you ask? Well, the ones you both/all agree upon! If someone gives you the consent to make out, they are by no means giving you consent to do anything other than that act alone. This is why it’s super important to communicate with your partners!

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The recent passing of Senate Bill No. 967 (aka the “Yes Means Yes” bill), means that in California consent is strictly defined as “affirmative, conscious and voluntary agreement to engage in sexual activity.” This means that the absence of a “no” does not mean the other person meant “yes.” So, if you’re unsure, ask! Getting consent is knowing there is mutual desire, which is pretty sexy. But, more importantly, it’s mandatory! Additionally, a prior relationship does not indicate consent to future activity, and even if consent is given, it can still be revoked at any time. Furthermore, someone who is incapacitated (asleep, unconscious, blacked out due to intoxication), cannot make rational choices and cannot give consent. And finally, one cannot use threat or coercion to gain consent.

Sex is a wonderful activity that people can enjoy together, but the first step is knowing if everyone is on the same page! Once you have consent, then you’ve gotten the okay from your partner(s) to engage in the fun.

~ Mila
SHEP Sexpert


Let’s talk about consent. Consent is giving affirmative permission for an action to occur. In regards to sexual activity, consent means allowing for particular sexual acts to take place! Which particular acts you ask? Well, the ones you both/all agree upon! If someone gives you the consent to make out, they are by no means giving you consent to do anything other than that act alone. This is why it’s super important to communicate with your partners!

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The recent passing of Senate Bill No. 967 (aka the “Yes Means Yes” bill), means that in California consent is strictly defined as “affirmative, conscious and voluntary agreement to engage in sexual activity.” This means that the absence of a “no” does not mean the other person meant “yes.” So, if you’re unsure, ask! Getting consent is knowing there is mutual desire, which is pretty sexy. But, more importantly, it’s mandatory! Additionally, a prior relationship does not indicate consent to future activity, and even if consent is given, it can still be revoked at any time. Furthermore, someone who is incapacitated (asleep, unconscious, blacked out due to intoxication), cannot make rational choices and cannot give consent. And finally, one cannot use threat or coercion to gain consent.

Sex is a wonderful activity that people can enjoy together, but the first step is knowing if everyone is on the same page! Once you have consent, then you’ve gotten the okay from your partner(s) to engage in the fun.

~ Mila
SHEP Sexpert


National Condom Week 2015


On Sunday, November 23rd I had the wonderful opportunity to give my first workshop at Stern Hall. The intro to Sexual Health and Sexual Pleasure workshop was attended by 7 residents, setting a cozy atmosphere to the discussion. We started with an overview of the various safer sex barrier methods available, like traditional condoms, insertive condoms, and dental dams. I demonstrated the proper way to use a traditional condom. Next we talked about the variety and wonders of lube. I showed them the difference between water-based and silicone-based, and many were surprised by how different the textures can be. We then transitioned to an introduction on sexual pleasure, and how sex toys can play a part in a healthy, fun sex life. The residents were excited to see the variety of toys as I went over the types, materials, and uses of the toys and subsequently passed them around.  One of my favorite toys to talk about is the strap-on harness, and I was glad to see someone actually volunteer to try it on! Overall it was a very pleasant experience talking to the women of Stern. We had a mixed group, with individuals of various backgrounds of sexual knowledge and experience so it was fun to interact with the diversity of questions presented to me. I had a great time, and look forward to my next workshop!


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Hey y’all,

Hope your Halloween weekend was eventful and sexy. Mine sure was! I dressed up as Little Red

Riding Hood and Wonder Woman. What did you all dress up as?

Anyway, my favorite topic to explore in my wonderful Interdisciplinary Studies Field major is

heterosexual casual sex (For example last year, I did a 20 page paper on heterosexual casual sex and

Instagram ^.^)

Happily for me, we’re reading about queer and hetero casual sex this week in my Sociology course.

We explored “Queer Women in the Hookup Scene: Beyond the Closet?” by Rupp et al’s text. And

this SNL video featuring Justin Timberlake and Lady Gaga (that was referenced in the article) is both

funny and true.

Thought I’d share.

In the college hookup scene, threesomes with two men and one woman allow men to explore their

sexuality without much stigma. It’s interesting how it’s socially acceptable (and even encouraged)

for two women to make out on the dance floor of a frat house. This is because it satisfies the

heterosexual male gaze. On the flip side for men, same-sex making out in a heteronormative space

is stigmatized.

This allows women to easily explore their sexuality without prancing around with tons of stigma.

For men, it’s much more difficult to explore their sexuality with bodies of the same sex. Having

woman in the middle of a threesome allows same-sex pleasure without as much stigma.

I’m just gonna leave this here:

“It’s okay when it’s in a three-way/ it’s not gay when it’s in a three-way/ with a honey in the middle

there’s some leeway”.

True, or nah?

Xoxo,

Daysha


Have you ever heard

someone call a woman a slut

simply for the clothing she

wears on her back? Or

alternatively, maybe you

have heard (or called)

someone a slut for his or her

sexual proclivities. Slut

Shaming is a systemic and

cultural problem that

proliferates college

campuses – and UC Berkeley

is no exception.

Although slut shaming can

be used in reference to male and female-bodied people, it is typically applied to

women. Most common definitions as a result define slut shaming along the gender

Slut Shaming: Slut-shaming, also known as slut-bashing, is the idea of

shaming and/or attacking a woman or a girl for being sexual, having one or more

sexual partners, acknowledging sexual feelings, and/or acting on sexual feelings.1

Once, when walking down the road to meet my partner, I had a car full of

men shout “Keep walking, you Cunt!” Did I deserve it? No. All I did was walk casually

around Berkeley, my current home. I was dressed as casually as one can get. Did

those men have a right to shout at me so crudely? No. Even had I been dressed

provactatively, it is a persons right to dress how they please. This wasn’t the first

time I had been harassed and my sex used as a right to assault me and unfortunately

it won’t be the last until people take a strong stand against it.

Slut shaming is a method for controlling women, and a vulgar one at that. It

contributes and validates rape culture – a problem that has largely been in the news

around Berkeley this year. Additionally, slut shaming harms individuals of any

sexuality. Heterosexual, Homosexual, Asexual, or any other variant of sexuality is

fair game for slut shaming. 2 People of all genders slut shame in an effort to control

and manipulate others. Women slut shame women and men slut shame women and

vice versa. It is a method to police sexuality and repress expression. 3 Often it can be

divided on classist lines as noted by Aljahzeera where “[Studies] found the more

affluent women were able to engage in more sexual experimentation without being

slut-shamed, while the less-affluent women were ridiculed as sluts for being

“trashy” or “not classy,” even though they engaged in less sexual behavior.”4 It is

time to stop oppressing and to start allowing expression. Whether it is through

1 http://finallyfeminism101.wordpress.com/2010/04/04/what-is-slut-shaming/

3 http://finallyfeminism101.wordpress.com/2010/04/04/what-is-slut-shaming/

4 http://america.aljazeera.com/articles/2014/5/29/slut-shaming-study.html

commiting to not “Yucking my yum” or by educating others on the bullying and

heavily oppressive nature of slut shaming, something needs to change.




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