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I did my Random Acts of Sexiness after work at around 7pm on Friday before Valentine’s Day. With that said, this went by pretty quickly. I did it at Sweet Tomatoes and told people via snapchat, as well as people who just came in the restaurant (primarily a younger crowd). I thought this would be pretty awkward at first considering it’s just giving out sex kits to people I probably don’t know, but it was actually pretty fun and I got to talk to some cool people about why I was doing it and how they were appreciative so they didn’t have to buy condoms.

I was also able to give out some to my roommates who heard about the class and knew about what I was doing before I went to work that day. I think the best part about this is taking away the awkwardness that society has put on taking preventative and safe sex measures. I know I was definitely nervous and felt awkward, which is very rare for me, but people being appreciative and taking them off my hands within about 20 minutes definitely changed my mood. I definitely will participate in this again, even outside of the class.


Pi1My random act of sexiness was definitely an interesting experience. At first, I thought it wouldn’t be weird, and I’d just be like, “Hey kids, have some condoms!” But at first it was actually really awkward. People just kinda looked at me and rejected the safer sex bags and seemed very skeptical. So, instead of walking around and approaching people I decided to just stand near Sather Gate and yell things.My random act of sexiness was definitely an interesting experience. At first, I thought it wouldn’t be weird, and I’d just be like, “Hey kids, have some condoms!” But at first it was actually really awkward. People just kinda looked at me and rejected the safer sex bags and seemed very skeptical. So, instead of walking around and approaching people I decided to just stand near Sather Gate and yell things.

This seemed to be much more effective. For some reason, people tend to respond better to holding out bags and yelling “Hey! Safer Sex! National Condom Week!” than to going up to them and politely asking if they would like some condoms. In retrospect, the first approach was probably a little creepy, but once I figured out that you can just yell things and people will gladly accept condoms, they went pretty fast. Overall, the experience was pretty fun. Some people were enthusiastic and accepting and others just thought I was weird. But that’s okay, because I am.

 

pic2When I first got to the table, I was in charge of making condom lollipops (taping condoms to lollipops). Shortly after, the penis suit became available for the shift, so I decided to dress up as the penis and hand out condoms. I was a little too short for the suit, so I had to pick up my balls in order to walk around, but I think I wore it pretty well. I enjoyed being dressed as the penis. It definitely brought a lot of laughs, and I took so many “dick pics” with students.

It was a little awkward when one of my GSIs rode by on her bicycle and made eye contact with me, but I have a surprisingly low amount of shame. Only a few people that I knew recognized me, and they were all happy to take condoms and pictures. It seemed that many people walking by were more likely to accept condoms from a giant penis, rather than regular students. Perhaps they took pity on me, or maybe just appreciated the fact that there was a giant penis on campus.

 

 


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Last week, I decided to perform my random act of sexiness at a meeting for a dance organization that I am a part of. I thought that the timing was great since a lot of the people in that dance organization would be seeing their significant others for Valentine’s Day weekend. First, I felt a little uncomfortable about passing out the condoms and lubes because I wasn’t sure how they would react and because I am extremely shy in group settings. However, it worked out great and people were actually extremely receptive to the random act of sexiness! The girls mostly just laughed and said, “sure I will take one,” while the guys were much more excited and wanted multiple of each. I am glad that I chose the dance organization I am involved in to do this because I think that dancers tend to be very open and outgoing about sexual topics. I am glad that this assignment pushed me out of my comfort zone and got me to share what I learned from our class last week about contraceptives. I was even able to help clarify for some people the benefits of using water or silicone based lubes over oil ones! Overall, it was a fun experience and I really hope my random act of kindness made someone’s day a little bit sexier!


I completed my Random Acts of Sexiness on Tuesday, February 10,pic2 2015. I went around random buildings in Unit 1 and Unit 3 to hand them out to people on their floor, as well as the courtyard in the center of each of the Units. It was a fun experience, though much more awkward than National Condom Day because people weren’t really expecting to see me, and my friend who I did it with (Vivacious Vivian) passing out condoms. The flyers definitely helped out, as a lot of the times we also got to advertise for National Condom Day, which was good. A lot of the times people also asked us why we were doing this, so we had to talk about the Decal and people were definitely interested to know more about it. I definitely didn’t get away with this whole process without getting disapproving and or funny looks from people, but it was fine – we all laughed about it at the end of the day!

A lot of the people I gave them out to also had questions about the products, which was good because I learned a lot from the previous Decal session in terms of contraceptive usage. For instance, I did manage to educate people about how condoms typically only last for twenty minutes, and people asked about the different lubes (oil or water based), so that was good because I actually knew what I was talking about! I was happy I got to do my Random Acts of Sexiness, and help make the world a better place through SAFE SEX!


Condom 1 Above is me passing out my condoms for Random Acts of Sexiness on Wednesday February 11 around Sather Gate area at 3:30pm! It was a very interesting experience. At first I was super nervous and embarrassed to even ask people if they wanted free condoms, after giving them out to a couple of people I began to get more comfortable. Before I knew it they were all gone since people were much more willing to take free condoms from me than I would have imagined. Article: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2015/01/13/abortion-myths_n_6465904.html For my makeup assignment I found an article that was particularly interesting to me in the realm of sexual health and knowledge, the topic was about abortions. Basically in this article they talked about ten of the most common myths having to do with abortion. The myths included: abortions are dangerous, fetus can feel the pain, most women regret their decisions, abortion rates are increasing, most Americans are against abortion, and most women have easy access to abortions. I think what surprised me the most is that abortion rates are actually decreasing and that actually most Americans are pro-choice. This surprised me because I thought that it was easier to find ways to have safe abortions now a days so more women would be open to the idea of using this rather than thinking about the potential dangers of not having a clinic do it and decide to carry through with the unwanted pregnancy. Also, I felt that there were more anti-abortion Americans since that is most heard of in the mass media. I think abortion and understanding the myths and truths about it is important for everyone to know regardless if you’re against it or for it because then you have all the factual background necessary to support your own choices. While I am personally pro-choice, I believe everyone has their right to their own opinion but before putting their opinions out there they should definitley be well informed.


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Can you recall the moment when you asked for something for the first time? How your whole body waited patiently for that agonizing answer? That YES that would relief you of all the pressure you had built inside. Now take note on all the things you ask for everyday without hesitation or a second thought.
Since toddlers we were conditioned to ask for everything from food to if we could play and the lesson did not stop there. We were taught to speak the word ‘Yes’ to confirm our desire to obtain what was asked of us. The message of a question followed by an answer was quickly received and implanted into our long-term memories. However, we seem to have misplaced our childhood memories in the process of becoming adults. We are no longer searching through our experiences to gain an understanding of the world around us. So are we truly adapting forward as humans?
Nowadays, we seem disabled in our ability to ask clearly our yearning for sexual intercourse. We are impatient to receive an authorizing yes. Which brings us to another lesson to learn or better said RE-learn. How do we ask for consent?
Consent is the act of accepting or agreeing to something proposed or desired by another and therefore giving formal permission for something to happen. A simple definition that would be easy to understand conversely as humans we seem to not acknowledge prior information. Even though as children we were not told that when we asked for something we really were asking for consent we simply just asked. However, as adults we have learned better right? Hopefully now we can distinguish when consent is being given.
So…do you want to have sex ever? Ask. It does not matter in what language you hear a ‘Yes’. As long as, you receive one before engaging into any extracurricular activities. And if you know how to work it right, I’m sure that will not be the only time you hear your partner say, yell, or moan it back to you.
Do you remember now the first time you learned the power behind the word ‘Yes’? Either getting the green light or giving the enthusiastic consent. Do you remember how you felt? Well, sex under the blessing of consent will either match that feeling or surpass it. Don’t give yourself the red light and ruin your luck by ‘forgetting’ to ask for consent. Join the multiple orgasms of the enthusiastic consent.
~ Lucero
SHEP Sexpert


BS NCW blog imageSafer sex is a glorious thing. There are many methods to help achieve safer sex, some more commonplace than others.  Barrier methods are perhaps one of the most common forms of sexually transmitted infection (STI) and pregnancy prevention. Examples of such methods are the traditional condom, and the less well-known, but equally awesome insertive condom! What is an insertive condom, you may ask? Well, I’m happy to tell you.

Insertive condoms do exactly what they sound like. They are inserted into a body cavity (the vaginal canal, the anus, etc.) prior to sexual intercourse. One of the most prolific brands on the market is the FC2, which is made of a nitrile or polyurethane pouch with flexible rings at either end of the condom. The ring at the end of the condom may be removed for comfort or ease of insertion. While the FC2 is one popular brand of the insertive condom, it is by no means the only brand. However, currently the Center carries the FC2.

Now you may be wondering what is so great about the insertive condom? Well, the answer is that there are many things that contribute to the awesomeness of this particular barrier method. It has a success rate of 95% with perfect use and 79% with typical use. Additionally, because it is not made of latex, it is perfect for those who suffer from a latex allergy. An added benefit is that the insertive condom can also be used with oil-based lubricants and doesn’t degrade when exposed to oil-based lubricants (something that all latex products suffer from.) Perhaps one of the coolest factors about insertive condoms, however, is that they can be inserted hours prior to sexual intercourse – so you never get caught unprepared!

Insertive condoms are thus a great alternative to traditional condoms and were initially created to aid in prevention of HIV/AIDS in the early 1980’s. The goal being to provide safer sex supplies to women (and men) around the world. The FC2 is actually the second iteration of the insertive condom, it’s predecessor being the FC1. One myth to dismiss is how insertive condoms sound. The FC1 was believed to make “bag-like” sounds – however, the FC2 as it currently stands is quite noiseless! So no worries about the condom making excessive (or potentially awkward) noises.

For those interested in trying out or learning more about the insertive condom (or any safer sex method) come on out for National Condom Week on February 13th! SHEP will be handing out samples and answering questions as well as having fun activities!

~ Brittany

SHEP Sexpert


 

MW NCW blog image 1 When people think of traditional condoms, they think of round rubbers that roll down a penis or phallic object. Although that is true, there are a vast variety of traditional condoms. They range in different sizes, colors, textures, and flavors. Traditional condoms can go from snug fit, regular, large, Extra Large, and EXTRA EXTRA LARGE. For colors, I have seen every color of the rainbow and more. If anyone wants a different color penis, they can get anything from red, black, orange, yellow, green, etc. It can really change up the scenery and be quite amusing.

If enjoy different colors, you might enjoy different textures too. A regular textured condom is typically smooth, but if you get different textured condoms, it can enhance the experience for the person being penetrated (consensually). From my knowledge, they have studded, ribbed, studded AND ribbed, and twisted. Of course, some people may enjoy the texture and some do not, so it is important to communicate with your partner on your likes and dislikes of any experience.

MW NCW blog image 2For a little bonus, I will now talk about flavored condoms. They are condoms that have different tasting lubes on them and should be only used for oral sex. The lubes contain sugar and can cause yeast infections if penetrated in a vagina or anus, and infections of any kind are not sexy. I hope you have enjoyed this little blog and found it informative. Thank you for your time.

~ Michael

SHEP SEXPERT


Let’s talk about consent. Consent is giving affirmative permission for an action to occur. In regards to sexual activity, consent means allowing for particular sexual acts to take place! Which particular acts you ask? Well, the ones you both/all agree upon! If someone gives you the consent to make out, they are by no means giving you consent to do anything other than that act alone. This is why it’s super important to communicate with your partners!

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The recent passing of Senate Bill No. 967 (aka the “Yes Means Yes” bill), means that in California consent is strictly defined as “affirmative, conscious and voluntary agreement to engage in sexual activity.” This means that the absence of a “no” does not mean the other person meant “yes.” So, if you’re unsure, ask! Getting consent is knowing there is mutual desire, which is pretty sexy. But, more importantly, it’s mandatory! Additionally, a prior relationship does not indicate consent to future activity, and even if consent is given, it can still be revoked at any time. Furthermore, someone who is incapacitated (asleep, unconscious, blacked out due to intoxication), cannot make rational choices and cannot give consent. And finally, one cannot use threat or coercion to gain consent.

Sex is a wonderful activity that people can enjoy together, but the first step is knowing if everyone is on the same page! Once you have consent, then you’ve gotten the okay from your partner(s) to engage in the fun.

~ Mila
SHEP Sexpert


Let’s talk about consent. Consent is giving affirmative permission for an action to occur. In regards to sexual activity, consent means allowing for particular sexual acts to take place! Which particular acts you ask? Well, the ones you both/all agree upon! If someone gives you the consent to make out, they are by no means giving you consent to do anything other than that act alone. This is why it’s super important to communicate with your partners!

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The recent passing of Senate Bill No. 967 (aka the “Yes Means Yes” bill), means that in California consent is strictly defined as “affirmative, conscious and voluntary agreement to engage in sexual activity.” This means that the absence of a “no” does not mean the other person meant “yes.” So, if you’re unsure, ask! Getting consent is knowing there is mutual desire, which is pretty sexy. But, more importantly, it’s mandatory! Additionally, a prior relationship does not indicate consent to future activity, and even if consent is given, it can still be revoked at any time. Furthermore, someone who is incapacitated (asleep, unconscious, blacked out due to intoxication), cannot make rational choices and cannot give consent. And finally, one cannot use threat or coercion to gain consent.

Sex is a wonderful activity that people can enjoy together, but the first step is knowing if everyone is on the same page! Once you have consent, then you’ve gotten the okay from your partner(s) to engage in the fun.

~ Mila
SHEP Sexpert




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