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External Condoms Everywhere!!!

Put it all in Poojan is back here with sexy help in exploring the wide range of external condoms. Let’s get the terminology out in the open. We here at SHEP do not use terms such as “traditional male condoms,” instead we use a more inclusive term “external condoms.” Plus it’s easier to remember this anyway because there are less words (external instead of traditional male) and more description (external = outside the body). You’re life’s different and more inclusive now!

 

External condom is a protective covering which has been engineered to catch and hold ejaculated semen during intercourse in order to minimize the threat of pregnancy and the spread of STIs. These should be used on penises, sex toys, or any other phallus shaped objects being used for intercourse.

Types of material an external condoms can be made out of:

  • Latex – most commonly available and if used properly they can protect against both pregnancy and STIs.
  • Polyurethane- made out of an alternative latex-free material for people with latex allergy. They are designed to protect against STDs and pregnancies, if used correctly.
  • Polyisoprene – derived from a natural rubber, and used for people with latex allergy. Has better stretch than polyurethane, but they are not compatible with oil based lube.
  • Natural – made out of animal membrane. If used properly, they are effective in protecting against pregnancies, but they are not designed for protection against STIs because of the natural pores in animal skin.

 

External condoms can vary in size, texture, thickness, color, and flavors but you should check their effectiveness before use. Here are a few types of them:

  • Flavored condoms (mint, grape, banana, strawberry, bubblegum, chocolate, vanilla, bacon, cola, etc) – these are only for tasting/licking, not consumption.
  • Glow in the dark condoms – even though it has a luminescent ring, it should not reduce the effectiveness of the condom.
  • Studded or textured condoms – have little bulbs on the outside for greater pleasure.
  • Warming/tingling pleasure condoms – tend to be made out of thinner late for greater sensation and are designed with a lubricant that heats up naturally during intercourse.
  • Pleasure-shaped condoms – these have extra pouches/tips for greater friction during intercourss.
  • Colored condoms – they have fun ones that are even colored as a country’s flag!
  • Sensis condoms with QuikStrips – the quickstrips are like the peel off strips on a band-aid and can pull down the condom quickly and accurately.
  • French ticklers –  provides sensation of tickling in the inner walls or anus, vagina, or mouth. These are novelty condoms, meaning that they do not provide any protection against pregnancy or STIs.
  • Edible condoms – these are novelty condoms which do not provide any protection against pregnancies or STIs but can be eaten!.

 

See ya later Sexy Bears!

Here is a picture of the Sensis condoms with a QuikStrip:

SHEP and You: Our Services for Fall 2018

Hey Y’all!

It is the start of a new semester and with that comes new ways that SHEP can help you have the safest, sexiest semester possible! Along with providing our clients with our weekly clinics every Friday, SHEP now has even more wonderful services to provide to you. Over the summer while everyone was enjoying the sunshine, the Tang Center has made some exciting changes concerning sexual health! Addressing the rising rates of STIs nationally, the Tang Center has rolled out the Safer, Sexy Healthy Campaign that is enabling students to take their health in their own hands and now conduct their own STI tests through their online eTang Portal. Through the Portal, students can send a message to the Tang Lab to request a self-direct STI test. No hassle, no fuss. No appointment with a clinician required! SHEP, to accommodate this exciting change has even opened an STI drop-in service, in which clients can come to speak to a sexpert on how to request and test themselves with the self-direct service. This service takes place from 2-3 pm, Monday through Friday.

 Continuing on the subject of the Safer Sexy Healthy Campaign, the ever popular Sexpert Education Clinic is now officially on the Tang Portal! To help eliminate barriers to this service, appointments can now be made in the same place that students would make all their general appointments. Same place, same time- Friday 12-3pm at Health Promotion Office in the Tang Center.

In addition to all these incredible changes, SHEP now offers Outreach Consultation appointments every Friday, at the same time as the Sexpert Education Clinic. Here in these meetings a Sexpert will meet with a member of a requesting organization and help build a workshop for an event! These workshop topics can range from Sexual Debuts, STIs, Safer Sex, to Sexual Pleasure and can be customized to fit the outreach requestor’s needs. SHEP also offers the option of “SHEP in a box” where a Sexpert will put together a workshop and partner with a facilitator so that they may present on their own if so desired. On the flip side, a workshop requestor can also request to co-facilitate with a Sexpert during the workshop. We want our workshops to enhance the knowledge of every UCB community we have to the pleasure to work with and to do that a co-facilitator from that community ensures that the knowledge will remain even when the Sexpert leaves.

Here at SHEP we are so excited to help the UCB Community enhance their journey with sexual wellness, sexuality, and health. We encourage you to take some advantage of our resources at the Tang Center or even reach out to us through social media on Facebook or Instagram! The office is restocked with safer sex supplies (even insertive condoms!) and is ready for the new semester!

 

Stay sexy Y’all!

SHEPNo-Problem Natalie

Communication = Lubrication

Communication matters; whether that be in a professional setting, 1-night stand, and/or in a dating relationship. All relationships benefit from effective communication skills.

Did you know that communication is 1 of 4 Fundamental Principles of practicing Healthy Sexuality? (Consent, Safety, and Pleasure being the other principles).

As a program, the Sexual Health Education Program, we actively advertise the notion “communication is lubrication”, in that effective communication skills enhance the awareness of the given circumstance(s) to have all affected parties be on the same page. Example, there is an enormous difference between “Let’s have sex” versus “What type of sex are you interested in or down for?” One is simply asserting a claim while the other is seeking to extract information to best maximize the current circumstance.

With this is in mind, try using ‘proper terminology’ to avoid confusion, not all parties might know what a “hummer”, “carpet clean”, or other sexual lingo can mean. Additionally, being direct, especially when talking about sex is crucial. Being direct rejects the possibility of assumptions being made throughout the given interaction. Assumptions fuel the view that you know best about what your partner needs or wants, when in actuality your partner knows best about their own needs and wants, SO WHY NOT ASK? Always ask your partner. Asking is sexy. Asking leads to respectful, consensual, good sex!

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“Meat” and Greet

Hey, sexy Bears! It’s Clitty Crystal here. Calapalooza was a huge success, ALL THANKS TO YOU! It was exhilarating when y’all came up to our table to ask about what resources SHEP has to offer and to grab free goodies because we get high off of your enthusiasm! We weren’t expecting to run out of the supply of condoms we brought but that’s always a major win in our book. If you couldn’t come by our table, I’ll catch you up! We were advertising Sexpert Education Clinics, Free HIV Testings, and free safer sex materials! Sexpert Education Clinics are on Fridays from 12-3pm (*squeals*) and we’re so excited to kick off this new semester by talking to y’all about anything (and I mean aaaaaanything) you want. Lastly, HIV Testings will begin Friday, Sept 28th from 12-3pm and did I mention that they’re rapid (30 minutes,) anonymous, and free? With all these amazing opportunities to check in with your sexual health, here’s to a safer and sexier semester! Now go forth and show the world what you’re made of.

 

❤ Clitty Crystal

Calapalooza!

Hey y’all!

It’s No-Problem here reporting to you about the first outreach of the semester- Calapalooza! While the temperature still very hot, it was such a pleasure to see everyone- from freshman to seniors- out and enjoying all that Cal has to offer.

At this tabling experience, SHEP tried to focus on showcasing all of our services that are free and available to the UCB Community. One of the most common complaints we hear from incoming students is the lack of services, or more the lack of knowledge provided about these services.  So, I find that it is really important to educate and connect with as many students as I can at the big semesterly events. Of course, with the Sexpert Education Clinic now on the Tang Portal, it has never been easier for students to connect with us!

As such, at Calapalooza we were stopping everyone we could with free condoms and lube, and telling them about our weekly Friday clinics and decals, Sex 101 and Sexual Pleasure, that are being offered this semester. Surprisingly though, I found that the question that was commonly asked about was insurance, and whether or not something was going to be covered by SHIP or how much it was going to be with private insurance. While I love to see people more assertive with their health care and not scared to ask such daunting questions (as often with finances what they are), the types of questions we are getting are a complete 180 degree turn from last year. In 2017, all the questions we seemed to be getting were how’s and what’s about the actual process of sex. For example, “How do I put on a condom?” or “What’s a dental dam?”. It’s great to see many students coming up to us and just asking how to get birth control, I feel like they were very confident in what they wanted and weren’t afraid to ask questions about what they didn’t.   

After my initial impressions about the potential clientele for the year, I am as hopeful as ever that this year will be a great one. If you were one of the students who were asking questions at Calapalooza- don’t stop! I encourage you to always to try to improve, keep an open mind, and find out more than what you had previously known! If you are a student who is reading and has yet to ask a question I encourage you to reach out of your comfort zone and try to challenge yourself to do something you would’ve never thought of doing before. Take one of our decals, try the Sexpert Education Clinic, or even ask a question you’ve never had the courage to before!

It is going to be a great semester Golden Bears! Reach up and reach out. I can’t wait to see you around and stay sexy y’all!

Best,

No-Problem Natalie

 

 

 

Public Health Day 2018

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Hey there Sexy Golden Bears! This past Friday SHEP had the pleasure of tabling at the Public Health Day Event on Dwinelle Plaza where we promoted the SHEP resources available to students in addition to meeting many of our wonderful fellow Bears.

At the tabling event we were placed on the outskirts of Sproul Plaza where we could attract the eyes of those going to and from class in addition to those passing by Dwinelle. Crystal and I worked the set up shift, so we were able to choose that materials that were brought to the event. On the table, we had various handouts and flyers that advertise our program. Everything from our HIV Clinic to the Healthy Relationship workshops were touched on. A common problem that UC Berkeley has (in addition to all the UC Campuses) is the fact that most students are unaware to the services and resources that are provided to them for free. The main service we pushed through to anyone who visited our table was the Sexpert Education Clinic. The great thing about the Clinic is that it covers a wide variety of topics- practically anything related to sexula health that the Clinent wants to cover can be addressed at these 30-minute appointments. Birth control, barrier methods, signs of unhealthy relationships, and the basics of consent and communication can be personalized and covered in these appoints to better help our clients.

In addition to all our wonderful services that we talked about, we also were able to push SHEP recruitment! This for me was a big deal as this time last Spring I was filling out my very own SHEP application- something that lead me to find my on-campus community which helped me thrive at UC Berkeley.

I had a great time tabling this Public Health Day and hope to do it again next year! We reached out to a lot of people in the UC Berkeley community and every interaction we had was personable. Stay sexy Golden Bears and let’s finish this semester strong!

 

Best,

 

No-Problem Natalie  

Rad, not Rough Community Project

As a new SHEPI (Sexual Health Education Intern) I am lucky enough to start off my time with SHEP with a community project. The community project is an opportunity for SHEPIs to start teaching about all different kinds of topics in sexual health in a community that we feel comfortable in and a part of. I chose to give my sexual health workshops in a community I felt comfortable in and a community I knew would be interested in diving deeper than the surface level sexual health conversations we commonly hear about. This community is called JFEM – a group of undergraduate students that all identify as Jewish, women, and feminists. From my past involvement in JFEM, they had talked about an array of different topics from secular issues of feminism, to Jewish women of the bible, even circumcision. No topic was off limits to these women so I was really excited for us to have a vibrant conversation.

 

For our first workshop I wanted to stick with some of the basics to make sure that we were all on the same page so I went over the general introduction to sexual health which includes an overview of reproductive and pleasure physiology, self-tests like testicular and breast exams, and STI testing including when and why to do so. I also think it’s really important during college to talk about sexual debuts (vs. virginity). I have never been a fan of the word “virginity” and when I understood what a sexual debut was, a lot of things clicked for me, and so I wanted to spread that knowledge and verbage to as many people as possible so that included the definitions of “virginity” and how one decides when they are ready to become sexually active for the first time or with a new partner. We spoke about the general mechanics of sex, the role of hormones in terms of arousal and how to communicate about sex.

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This initial workshop (March 22) I could see the progress from the beginning to the end with the audience. At the beginning when I tried engaging people in conversation I could tell they were a little timid but over time, as I shared my personal experiences, people started to warm up more and we ended up having a really deep conversation about some of our personal experiences. We were also able to tie in a little bit of Jewish wisdom on sex, which was exciting to fuse the two a little.

 

The following week, JFEM was going to go on a tour of the sex store in Berkeley, Good Vibrations, so in preparation for that trip, for my second workshop on April 5th, I decided to talk about sexual pleasure. Sexual pleasure included an overview of pleasure physiology including sexual arousal and response, ambiance, toys, other aids and lube to enhance sexual experience.

 

The difference from the first workshop to the second was truly outstanding. People in the group had heard about my first workshop and were interested so even more people came to the second workshop. People were excited to talk about a subject that isn’t really mentioned in sexual education that often and we were able to be very curious and trusting with each other.

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All in all this community project has been a really amazing learning experience for me. I’ve enjoyed stepping up in my community in the role of an educator. There is a lot to be said about the access that we all have in our different communities to sexual health education, whether that be in our childhood or in college. I am grateful to be a part of SHEP and to be able to bring that kind of education to my community.

 

~ Rough n Rad Rachel

APATHers Learn About Sexual Pleasure

 

This was my last workshop with my APATH community which consisted of my peers who had Asian-American backgrounds. I was able to seen significant change in one person who continually showed up to each and every workshop. It gave me immense pleasure (in a non-sexual way) to know that I was able to make a minute change in someone’s life just by educating them about something I am learning and loving.

As I predicted, this one was better than the last two since there was much more audience interaction because we kept asking for volunteers and passing around tangible items. We discussed the 3 erogenous zones a person can have, tips and tricks about digital, anal, and other penetrative sex, how to train your body for multiple orgasms, and different lube products and sex toys. All of which were geared towards enhancing people’s sexual experience.

My peers were extremely ready and excited for this workshop as I made sure to make it sound as amazing as it was. They were excited to learn more about what they could add to make their sexual experience as best as it can be. Since I could sense the interest of this topic in the room, I made sure to conclude by telling them that I will be teaching a Sexual Pleasure 101 DeCal next Fall Semester. Additionally, I also made sure they knew where to find us at the TANG Center, as well as our other DeCal, Sexual Health 101, if they needed more information or tips regarding sexual health.

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Safer Sex Workshop with APATHers

It’s Pull Out Poojan coming at you with another update about my workshop, Safer Sex, with a very knowledgeable Sexpert Reyna. We held this workshop with the APATH community here in Cunningham. This community is composed of students who have diverse backgrounds and identify as Asian American and Pacific Islander. This community is able to provide me with the safe space I need to talk openly about topics regarding sexual health.

For this workshop, I had similar turnout in the number of people like last time (~7-8 people), but the crowd was filled with different people. Some of whom were extremely enthusiastic and responsive to the various safer sex methods and identities Reyna and I exposed them to. When the crowd interacts with the presenters (in a positive way), it makes the presenters job way easier and allows them to also enjoy giving the workshop. That is exactly what happened; they were asking so many good question (that I knew the answer to!) made me feel as though they really cared about the information I was presenting to them.

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In terms of this workshop, Reyna and I went through the various barrier methods, both manufactured and DIY. This time I made sure to incorporate various activities and have other tangible items being passed around for more peer engagement. We had the sexy names, condom challenge before and after instructions how to put on a condom correctly, and the identities match game.  Overall, this one has been the better one, in comparison to the last sexual debuts workshop. I am really looking forward to the next one because not only have I done more publicity for this one, I have also activity reach out to more of the AAPI community in hopes that they can come out to and engage in this informative workshop.

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